Remembrance

There are few things in life that are difficult to forget. These things, these moments continue to live with you. And as they say, memories go on...

Tonight let me remember them and let me remember you...

• Coming home from college, with another hungry baggage called ANNIE. Both of us working in the kitchen and eating a big square meal.
• Watching movie together at Milanz.
• Baker's points donuts.
• The day I bought my first pair of contact lenses.

hmm, who do these instances remind me of ... ? obviously of a home , i have left at Kathmandu. It is an amazing feeling to realize that I am striving to start a home of my own now in Kolkata. And all of a sudden, there is remembrance.

Well, it isnt too bad to miss sometimes :)

Randomly

Some thoughts... some strange thoughts... some strange thoughts that have come after some time... :D

or rather...

a framework for writing an essay

or

mood swings...

Man - woman

He looked at her intently. Then suddenly a tear rolled out from his eye. He couldn’t believe what he had heard. The three words that she had whispered into his ear. The same old stereotyped words, I love you. And how much it seemed to mean to him. The words came out her mouth without much thinking, without much effort. They came out because she knew that was what he would like to hear. And just because she wanted him to feel good, she whispered the sweet nothing into his ear.

Love

What precisely is love? He tells her that he loves her, what exactly does he mean. Love between a man and a woman, is pretty selfish. A man looks at a woman with so many intents. Is a woman, an individual that he loves, or is she just a bust and butt material?

Is physical intimacy the reason a man loves a woman? Even if it may be true, is it right or is it wrong? Why do we tend to give a negative connotation to physical union of man and woman? Is physical intimacy the path or the end or the means to reach love?

Duty

Pativrata is described as a woman with following virtues:

She serves him like a servant when she must work for him.

She counsels him like a minister counsels his king.

She is a seductress in bed.

She is a mother when she feeds him.

Marriage

Why do people get married? Do they marry when they realize they want to.. or do they get married when other people or the society thinks it is the appropriate thing to do?

Marriage and Woman

I had never looked at marriage with much positive perspective. Marriage for me meant, binding to social norms. Somewhere, marriage seemed like something you could not run away from. I would often wonder if sane people would ever want to get married. Well, I for one would have been blissfully single had I had my way.... Thank GOD, I did not HAVE my way !

For a woman, getting married means relocating. It means more than that. In a Hindu Marriage, the girl is not just married to the groom, she is married into his Family. In my recent trip to Lankawi, an Australian couple gaped with astonishement as they noted that I would start living with my in laws after I get married. Perhaps it was just another cultural shock. But Indian and Nepalese marriages, are not just about individuals who are tying the knot. THey are more than just the two of them.

Well, I had been skeptical, that a woman, does not have a HOME, in true sense of it. She leaves her FATHER's home, as she gets married. I left my parental home... The bride goes into another family, she tries to make it her home. How easy or how difficult is it. Can you imagine, that you change your name, your family and your place (ktm to kolkata!!)??? Hmm, that used to be my attitude... However, there is a change in that attitude, I think a woman is priviledged, as she has the capacity to love, the capacity to belong to... And now I belong to two families! And I am priviledged to have double parental affection.

More on marriage later.. I could work on an essay I think... Send me your encouragements if you don't think this topic sucks ;-)

Interesting Quote

The problem with people who have no vices is that generally you can be pretty suure they're going to have some pretty annoying virtues.
Elizabeth Taylor