Marriage and Woman

I had never looked at marriage with much positive perspective. Marriage for me meant, binding to social norms. Somewhere, marriage seemed like something you could not run away from. I would often wonder if sane people would ever want to get married. Well, I for one would have been blissfully single had I had my way.... Thank GOD, I did not HAVE my way !

For a woman, getting married means relocating. It means more than that. In a Hindu Marriage, the girl is not just married to the groom, she is married into his Family. In my recent trip to Lankawi, an Australian couple gaped with astonishement as they noted that I would start living with my in laws after I get married. Perhaps it was just another cultural shock. But Indian and Nepalese marriages, are not just about individuals who are tying the knot. THey are more than just the two of them.

Well, I had been skeptical, that a woman, does not have a HOME, in true sense of it. She leaves her FATHER's home, as she gets married. I left my parental home... The bride goes into another family, she tries to make it her home. How easy or how difficult is it. Can you imagine, that you change your name, your family and your place (ktm to kolkata!!)??? Hmm, that used to be my attitude... However, there is a change in that attitude, I think a woman is priviledged, as she has the capacity to love, the capacity to belong to... And now I belong to two families! And I am priviledged to have double parental affection.

More on marriage later.. I could work on an essay I think... Send me your encouragements if you don't think this topic sucks ;-)